The fist step towards change is awareness. The second step is acceptance.
We cause our pain with our thoughts. Everything that happens or exists is neither good or bad, it just is. How we think about these things is what makes us perceive them as pleasant or unpleasant.
When we learn to accept what’s happening we open ourselves up to be calmer, less stressed and happier. We create some space in which we can notice and enjoy the good things around us instead of being miserable.
We give ourselves time to think clearly and decide what actions we want to take to change the situation.